• Andy Murphy

SOMA Breath - It's Not Always Sexy, But It's Real

So, Let's Get Real

If the whole of existence was reduced down to just two simple characteristics it could be said that it’s either life or death.

But we could also say that it’s either with or without breath, male or female, day or night, up or down, high or low…

Or… sexy or not sexy.

For the sake of this blog post let’s stick with the whole of existence being characterised as either sexy or not sexy, just because we can.

For many of us life is to be experienced fully, with all of its highs and lows enjoyed and agonised along the way. However, the highs are often celebrated far more than the lows.

My brother even has a tattoo on his arm that reads, “Not Here For A Long Time, Here For A Good Time.” Which highlights this perfectly.

The Highs & Lows

The highs of life are magical and awe-inspiring. They make us feel alive. If life was to be reduced down to just two simple characteristics and those characteristics were either sexy or not sexy, the high would definitely be the sexier of the two.

There aren’t many of us that enjoy dabbling in the lows, at least not publicly anyway, so they are often experienced on a very individual basis where they are either internalised in the form of self-judgement and self-doubt, or they become the wisdom with which we live our lives by.

People cope with the lows in different ways but whatever they reveal to others is often only a fraction of the story, at least in my own experience anyway.

No-one needs guidance when they’re high. We simply just have to admire the persons flight path and encourage them to enjoy every minute of it while it lasts.

However, people often seek guidance when the low comes, and whenever that happens, having an anchor is crucial.

What’s An Anchor?

An anchor is what we can turn to, rely on, support us and keep us grounded. It’s what can remind us to a higher knowing that says ‘don’t worry, everything is going to be okay.’

An anchor is what can be used right there in the moment. It can be what keeps our head above water for just long enough to know that it’s safe to keep swimming. It’s something that doesn’t require us to nip out for an hour to meditate and then come back all calm and peaceful.

It doesn’t rely on a special person to be around either, or a substance to pick us up, even if only momentarily.

An anchor is consistent.

That anchor, for me at least, is having a daily practise. It strengthens the ‘everything is going to be okay’ muscle.

And the good news is that it can be anything — meditation, breathwork, yoga, humming, chanting, positive affirmations, a mudra, physical exercise or anything else that helps us right there in the moment when we need it most.

Without one, other anchors such as nervous stutters, twitches, biting of nails, picking, scratching, being overly talktative or not able to talk at all can all start to become what people use to help them get through a difficult situation.

A Quick Metaphor

An anchor in the ocean, once grounded, can survive the harshest of storms and can keep the boat from hitting into anything fatal. Before this however, the anchor has to skip over the oceans floor, bump and scratch its way to a safe landing place before finally settling and grounding in.

But a boat with no anchor at all is at the mercy of the ocean.

People are like boats and this metaphor can be related to people with anchors, and people without them.

For those people who have their anchor set, they are often calm, collected and at peace, even if chaos surrounds them. From this place their creativity can shine through in the life that they choose.

For those people without an anchor at all, they are often anxious, depressed, angry, fearful and worrisome to name but a few.

And for those who have recently dropped their anchor, they often feel secure in moments of stillness but then as the anchor skips and jumps and scratches and bumps, they forget and worry that it may not land again.

Having A Daily Practise

A daily practise is what can take us from having no anchor at all to having one firmly set.

In the time between having no anchor at all and having one firmly set there are of course lots of bumps and scratches. But with enough dedication and patience, the anchor will eventually find a resting place.

With enough dedication and patience in life, a person will eventualy find their centre; that unmoving place to return to.

The daily practise that I’ve found to be most helpful for me is breathwork, and in particular Soma Breath.

The breath has tremendous health benefits once we become aware of it and it’s happening all of the time, 24 hours a day, whether we are aware of it or not.

But to bring it into the context of having an anchor I love breathwork because we don’t have to go anywhere to find it; we don’t have to go anywhere to buy it, source it or grow it either. It’s right there, forever and always, until we die.

So, what better anchor could there be?

Some Other Cool Benefits of Breathwork

Breathwork has the ability to slow the nervous system down, supports deeper sleep, reduces anxiety, creates better circulation and digestion and can create space between thoughts that might otherwise overpower us.

And it’s with us consistently, throughout all of life, in every single moment.

But before we get carried away, if you’re thinking that I sound like I have it all figured out, you’re far from the truth.


I’ll say it — I suffer from it. There, it’s out in the open now.

And if you suffer from anxiety too you’ll know that it grips, claws, thumps, pounds, blurs, criticises, judges and scrutinises.

At times it just frustrating. At others, it’s crippling. And it’s far from sexy.

After discovering that I did, in fact, have this thing called anxiety, I was determined to find ways to live with it more healthily.

After all, we can only live with something more healthily if we know it exists.

That determination luckily led me to breathwork, and breathwork then luckily led me to Soma Breath and Soma Breath then luckily led me to finding ways in which to manage anxiety right there in the moment it’s happening.

For that reason alone, I’m forever grateful to breathwork as a modality, Soma Breath for its guidance and to both for providing an anchor when I need it most.

Quick Footnote

Breathwork can bring up all kinds of different emotions, with some even reporting emotions from previous lives too.

So it has the capacity to shine light into areas otherwise unknown and that can be revealing to say the least, especially if it’s the first time.

If emotions have been suppressed, quite often the breath can unlock these blocked passageways in order to create space for transformation to take place. But transformation can be challenging, and sometimes even painful, even if we know that the person on the other side is who want to become.

I used to think that I wasn’t an angry person until I realised, through breathing, that I had suppressed it deep inside. My need to not let anger out showed up in other ways like being way to accommodating, over-the-top and trying-to-please behavioural patterns that only made the angry part of myself more angry, except I was too afraid to express the real emotions beneath it.

The breath unlocked these areas and it shook the very core of me awake. So much so that other emotions of anger, fear, resentment, anxiety and resistance also started to be better known, more times than I care to admit actually.

All of these traits would probably not be classified as sexy, or anything close to sexy for that matter, but at least it’s real. And I’d take that every single time.

So, breathwork is a journey. Sometimes it’s up, sometimes it’s down. Sometimes it’s high, sometimes it’s low. Sometimes it’s very sexy and other times it’s as far from sexy as it gets.

But we are human after all, and what’s a human experience without experiencing the whole spectrum of life?

And what offers more of life than the breath that keeps us alive?

1 view0 comments

Recent Posts

See All